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Therapy for Trauma

Healing After Trauma

I am particularly interested in helping people struggling with the ongoing effects of adverse childhood experiences. Often they have never really felt whole, truly acceptable, safe or at peace. Much too often they blame themselves for what was actually done to them.

Years after the adverse experiences have ended the effects can live on. The ways they developed to stay as safe as possible, that were normal adaptations to abnormal circumstances, remain with them. The problem is these ways often operate in the present as if it's still the past. In fact, for many the past is like a shadow, always with them and not really past, more like right behind. And that means it can over determine their present experience.

"The past is never dead. It’s not even past." William Faulkner

Many feel that there is little that can be done to change these things. What’s the point of talking about the past they tell me, you cannot change it.

Healing from the residual effects of adverse childhood experience needs to go beyond talking about it. The effects live on in the nervous system and the body. You learned how to survive in dangerous, neglectful circumstances but not how to live comfortably in otherwise normal, relatively safe ones. Your fear system needs to be attuned to current circumstances and skills you never had the chance to learn need to be acquired. Over time you unlearn the ways that once served your very survival, but now are often overreactions to otherwise relatively safe situations. You acquire skills that are foundational to success in relationships, career and life in general.

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The healing process does not have to involve reliving the past. In fact, we try to avoid that at all costs. But there’s no sugar coating this journey, it is hard and often painful. Despite this, many choose to take it rather than stay mired in the fear and pain of the past. You are a survivor. Your struggle is part of your story. Good trauma therapy helps make your story truly yours. You become the author of your own life, rather than the ghosts of your past.

I have helped many take this journey successfully. If you think you are ready, I would like to help you as well.

The important thing is this. To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we can become.

— Charles Du Bois

Adverse Childhood Experience

Adverse Childhood Experiences can be significant contributors to many problems. These include severe depression and suicidality; chronic states of stress, anxiety, fear and anger; an inability to trust others; difficulties making and maintaining relationships; sexual dysfunction; difficulties with authority and holding a job; and being at higher risk for interpersonal violence. Dissociation, difficulties regulating feelings, and a toxic sense that we are bad to the bone tend to be the rule.

Dissociative Identity Disorder can be one very frightening and confusing result of adverse childhood experiences. Despite what popular culture and some professionals say, DID is best treated as a normal (if extreme) adaptation to highly abnormal, overwhelming, circumstances. Many people do not want to acknowledge the possibility of DID because of the stigma and sensationalism surrounding "multiple personalities" in the popular culture. So they suffer in silence fearing they are crazy. They often endure many years of diagnosis and treatment for everything but DID at great cost financially and emotionally.

If you suspect you might be struggling with DID, please contact me. You are not crazy and having multiple parts is not the problem. The problem is a lack of integration. The naturally occurring parts of your psychic system do not co-operate harmoniously often resulting in internal conflict, confusion and chaos. This can be changed for the good of all.

Please take a few minutes to go to this website and view the short video you will find there. It’s not about making a donation, it's watching the video so you can experience a different way of thinking about DID and to know you are not alone. Whatever your decision, I wish you peace, safety, and harmony.

http://iamwemovie.com/

I am informed by many experts in the field of trauma treatment including Pat Ogden, Bessel Van Der Kolk, Judith Herman, Kathy Steele, Otto Van Der Hart, Marylene Cloitre, Julian Ford, Jon Allen, Dan Siegel, Richard Schwarz, Francine Shapiro and many others. I have specialized training in EMDR, Lifespan Integration, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Trauma as well as the highly useful, overarching Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.


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The fit between you and your therapist is one of the most important elements in successful therapy. To get a sense of how we would work together, I offer a no fee, 30-minute, get acquainted session. Contact me or click on the Schedule button and choose a 30 minute event.

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Office Address:
600 Stewart St, Suite 603
Seattle, WA 98101
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Office Hours:

Tuesday - Thursday: 10am - 7pm
Friday: 10am - 5pm
Saturday: 9am - 1pm

Fees & Insurance:

My fee is $105 dollars per session, and I offer a sliding scale for those needing some help with the costs of therapy. Fees are paid at the end of the session. I'm currently in-network for: Regence, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, First Choice Health, CIGNA, Beacon, Group Health (certain plans). I can also bill as Out of Network.

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