 | | Non-judgment - Acceptance of you and your life experience. First and foremost I | | | want you to feel understood
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| | Respect - For you, the choices you make and the pace at which you want to | | | work
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| | Collaboration - We work together to understand the issues, develop the goals of | | | counseling and choose the strategy for attaining those goals
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| | Flexibility - The plan and approach to counseling is tailored to your unique style, | | | needs and comfort level
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| | Strength-based - Focus more on strengths vs deficits, solutions vs problems
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| | Each partner is equally valued and has their own voice
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| | Negative interaction cycles, dysfunctional behaviors and rigidity are the causes | | | of distress
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| | Different ways of seeking closeness and their underlying fears and expectations | | | usually drive the negative patterns
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| | The "problem" is not in yours or the other's characters, but in the negative | | | interaction cycles, dysfunctional behaviors and conflicting attachment needs.
The problem exists between you, not in you or them
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